What if the relationship patterns you can’t seem to break are rooted in stories you’ve never fully understood? Adam Young, therapist and host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast, joins us to explore how our earliest experiences continue to shape our most intimate relationships—and what we can do about it.

Adam’s approach to story work isn’t about crafting a grand narrative of your life. Rather, it’s examining those few pivotal childhood moments that have mysteriously stayed with you and continue affecting your present relationships. Through vulnerability, neuroscience, and practical guidance, he reveals why simply giving someone relationship “tools” often fails without understanding the underlying patterns driving their behavior.

Drawing from his own marriage, Adam shares how his inability to pursue his wife emotionally stemmed from an enmeshed relationship with his mother—a connection he never questioned until he began exploring his story. This process of naming what’s happening in our relational dynamics, he explains, is more than half the battle toward healing and change.

The neuroscience Adam presents is compelling: our earliest relationships with caregivers influence our neural connections more than anything else in life. For parents, this knowledge can initially feel terrifying, but Adam offers hope through the possibilities of repair and the recognition that we all need a rescuer to heal from inevitable harm.

Whether you’re struggling in your marriage, trying to parent differently than you were parented, or simply curious about why you relate to others the way you do, this conversation offers a compassionate roadmap for making sense of your story. As Adam reminds us, “Your stories need to be written and they need to be told.” Are you ready to discover what’s truly at the core of yours?